📅 2021-09-10 | ⏱️ 24:06 | 👁️ 85.2K views | 👍 6K likes | 💬 1.9K comments
Pea brings back her panel of three Filipinas — Fritzy, Mika, and Angel — for another candid car interview covering jealousy, social media stalking, whether men and women can truly be friends, the Filipino obsession with marriage and children, family loyalty dynamics, stay-at-home dads, deal-breakers, breakup etiquette, breakup sex, and the cultural habit of saving face. The conversation is part two of their previous panel and goes even deeper into the real mechanics of Filipino relationships and family life.
What's Covered
Reactions from the last interview
- The previous panel video got a lot of viewer attention and the ladies read the comments
- Angel's boyfriend was "very jealous" — he read every comment for three days straight, more than Angel herself did
- Mika's boyfriend saw comments about people wanting to give her a green card and asked "does that mean you leave me?"
- Fritzy's boyfriend confirmed he watched the video by quoting a specific comment calling her beautiful
- All three appreciated the subscriber compliments and ask for more engagement on this video
Are Filipinas jealous?
- Fritzy: neutral — if her boyfriend has proven he's trustworthy and faithful, there's no reason to be jealous; she'd only become jealous or insecure if he's actually cheating
- Mika: used to be very jealous (upset about liked photos, looking at other girls), but realized it was draining — she shifted to the mindset "if you betray me, that's not on me" and now rarely feels jealous
Social media stalking habits
- The panel identifies two kinds of stalking: healthy (learning someone's likes, hobbies, interests before dating) and suspicious (investigating when something feels off)
- Key warning from Mika: "Filipinas will find out even if you hide it, even if you have an old account... before they ask a question, they already know the answer"
Can men and women be just friends? (When Harry Met Sally question)
- Fritzy: yes — she has a boy best friend; they share "wasted nights" (drinking nights), memories, adventures, and dramas; she wouldn't risk that by dating him
- Angel: yes — both she and her boyfriend have opposite-sex best friends; her male friends wouldn't date her because "they know too much... every bad side, disgusting side, all my secrets — she's a very dangerous girl"
- Mika's nuanced take: when both are single, it's relaxed (dinners at each other's places, watching movies); when one gets a partner, there's an unspoken boundary shift — less time, less clinginess, out of respect
- Conflict starts when the friend says "I was already here before you"
- Realistic odds a male friend would date you: about 20% — "if there was chemistry, don't you think it would have already happened?"
Do Filipinas want to get married?
- Mika: marriage is security — assurance the person won't leave if you're building a home, having children, combining finances
- Angel's humorous take: husbands get to come home to a wife in sexy lingerie with a turkey on the table "and also with the wife on the table" — Fritzy says "I've done that and we're not married yet"
- What men get out of marriage: life security, someone to grow old with — "you both get arthritis at the same time, help each other get out of bed"
- Mika explains the Philippines retirement appeal: the culture is family-oriented and caretaking; "whether you're married or not, it's like let's go grow old together"
- Fritzy: for religious people, marriage is sacred and binding — that matters deeply
Do Filipinas want children?
- Fritzy: yes, one or two maximum — emphasizes responsible family planning to properly provide for each child financially, mentally, and physically
- Mika: tradition drives it — carrying on the family name, having someone for old age; but modern Filipinas are pushing back: "your children are not retirement funds, they're not investments"
- Filipino family norms: kids don't get kicked out at 18; some live with parents well into their 40s and it's completely normal because it's cheaper and everyone takes care of each other; when kids marry, they often live in or near the parents' house; grandparents, parents, children, cousins all coexist — "it's always a full house"
- Homes for the elderly basically don't exist in the Philippines — the panel can barely name a single one
- Pea pushes back on the "who will take care of you when you're old?" justification for having kids: "that's not the reason why you're having kids"
Eldest child as breadwinner
- The firstborn (boy or girl) typically becomes the family breadwinner after finishing school — they pay for younger siblings' education
- Pea shares her own situation: building her family a house before she can build her own, sent her mother a smart TV so she can watch YouTube, sending her brothers to school
- Her family doesn't pressure her, but she does it voluntarily: "I strongly believe in giving them a fighting chance for a better future"
- Mentions frustration with building permit bureaucracy — two months and counting
Family loyalty vs. partner loyalty
- Angel: partner first — she didn't experience real parental love growing up and is "very used to giving it to my partner"
- Mika: family first — "they were there first and have my best interests in mind that sometimes my partner won't see"
- Pea: future husband first — "that's going to be my family now, one plus one equals one"; she's confident her family would understand and support that
- The raw reality: "it's hard to be loyal to parents when some parents left their children... when they grew up being abused by their parents" — not all parents deserve automatic loyalty
- Angel gets emotional and tearful thanking Pea — she never had a sister and now considers Pea, Fritzy, and Mika her instant sisters; "they know me more than my parents"
Stay-at-home dads: not stigmatized in the Philippines
- Mika grew up with a stay-at-home dad through grade 2 while her mom worked — nobody judged it; her mom "found it really sexy"
- Angel emphasizes the sheer workload: cooking, school drop-off, cleaning, laundry — "that's really a lot of things, and you should respect that"
- Practical context: many Filipino women go abroad as domestic helpers (more job opportunities for women in that role), leaving husbands as primary parents — better than leaving kids with a nanny or relative
- The only time Filipinos lose respect for a stay-at-home dad is if he's irresponsible — taking the wife's remittance money and blowing it on vices, gambling, and drinking with friends instead of spending on the children
- Pea contrasts this with the Western stigma she's heard about from friends, where women reportedly lose interest if a man earns less — "very unheard of" in the Philippines
Deal-breakers for Filipinas
- Mika's first-date conversation checklist: children (yes/no and how to raise them), religion/beliefs, finances (how to divide bills)
- Must be discussed early, before emotional investment — "while you're still not invested"
- Transparency is critical: some Filipinas lie about having existing children until the foreigner arrives and discovers the truth — "it's gonna bite you in the arse"
- If a man says he doesn't want marriage, Pea's advice: don't try to change his mind
How to break up with a Filipina
- Angel: never via text, email, or phone call; don't list hurtful reasons; be the bigger person
- Filipino "three-month rule": don't date someone new for three months after a breakup, out of respect
- Pea's neighbor story: a couple living together, he broke up via email, kicked her out, and moved another girl in the same week — then Pea and her own boyfriend broke up the following week: "breakups are contagious — wear your mask"
- Mika on prevention: "Get to know people before you make them your girlfriend, that way if you want to end things you don't end up with six bruises and a restraining order"
- Don't be friends with an ex right away — it's "the gateway to the crazy ex" because they think they still have a shot
- Beware the mother: some Filipino moms will message the foreigner after a breakup saying "you were very kind to my child, give her another chance" — don't fall for it
Breakup sex / makeup sex
- Angel describes it as "desperate please-don't-leave-me sex" — says it's passionate and she's had it multiple times; in her relationship it became "let's give it another shot"
- Fritzy confirms makeup sex after fights is their standard dynamic
Saving face
- Rooted in Asian pride — admitting you're wrong feels embarrassing
- Common tactic: deflecting by bringing up something the other person did wrong instead of owning your own mistake
- Angel: even when she realizes her partner is right, she can't admit it — just makes a face and thinks "fine, be that way" while internally knowing she's wrong
- Mika: in that moment, pride is "the only thing you have, so you're not letting go"
- All agree overcoming it takes real practice
Hidden talents segment at the end
- Angel demonstrates crossing her eyes independently and flipping her eyelids — used to scare other kids as a child; calls them her "momo eyes"