📅 2022-10-21 | ⏱️ 15:02 | 👁️ 216.6K views | 👍 7.2K likes | 💬 1.1K comments
Pea responds to viewer requests for an interview with an older Filipina by sitting down with Joy Cabrera, a 50-year-old widow and street vendor from the province now living in Dumaguete. Pea explains upfront why these interviews are rare: most Filipinas in that age range are married or legally separated, many don't speak English well, and the vast majority of women who contact foreign men online are in their 20s — it's simple supply and demand.
Joy's background:
- 50 years old, widowed since age 36
- Has one daughter, age 21, who has already finished her college degree
- Works as a vendor seven days a week, Monday through Sunday
- Earns 200–250 pesos per day (roughly $4–$5 USD)
On finding a partner at her age:
- She's actively open to having a new partner
- Says it's not that difficult for older women to find someone as long as they're still healthy
- She would only live with someone she's legally married to — would not do a permanent living partnership without marriage
Her surprising answer on children:
- Despite being 50, Joy says she's still open to having more kids — ideally two boys and one girl
- She'd be willing if her future partner wanted children
Financial dynamics:
- Still financially supporting her 21-year-old daughter even though the daughter has a job
- Does NOT expect her daughter to support her in old age — wants her daughter to save for her own future
- Pea notes this is an unusual answer because most Filipino parents expect their children to support them when they're older
- Does expect a future partner to support her financially
Her ideal age for a partner: 73 years old
- Her specific reasoning: at 73, a man is "too old to look for other women," making him more loyal
- She's flexible though — says she'd accept anyone from their 50s/60s up to 73
- Her stated Five-Year Plan/life goal: find that 73-year-old
Views on foreigners:
- Joy's impression of foreign men: they're good, sweet, they'll take care of you when you're sick, and they're more responsible as partners
- She's open to dating a foreigner
- Has not tried dating apps (doesn't know Tinder, Filipino Cupid, or Date in Asia) — she uses Facebook
- She believes foreign men come to the Philippines because of the nature/scenery
- Pea mentions that subscribers say men come because they want someone traditional and feminine — Joy agrees and adds that Western women "aren't loyal anymore"
Where she'd want to live:
- Prefers to live abroad rather than stay in the Philippines
- Wants to experience different seasons
On religion and compatibility:
- Born-again Christian, goes to church regularly (partly because it's close to her house)
- But doesn't require her partner to be religious — as long as he has good character and isn't abusive, she's fine with it
What she brings to the table:
- Says she's very loving, very frugal, and very honest
- Pea emphasizes that honesty is "a very rare commodity nowadays"
Her take on younger Filipinas' biggest mistakes:
- Young women focus too much on appearance — if they see a good-looking guy, they "attack"
- The younger generation has lost traditional respect customs like the "mano po" (blessing the hands of elders) before meals
- Kids now use curse words freely
- Young people are absorbed in social media and don't spend time with their parents the way previous generations did
Joy's perfect day with a partner:
- Morning: kissing, hugging, cuddling — "ate Joy loves a lot of cuddling"
- She's still very interested in sex and intimacy — not treating it as a duty or chore
- Pea specifically asks if she's looking for something intimate and Joy enthusiastically confirms