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Pea tracked down a stunningly beautiful woman she spotted during a previous street video where she was giving cash to locals. Expecting a lightweight "fluff piece," Pea instead uncovered the remarkable story of Maricel β a woman who grew up in extreme rural poverty in Cebu province, left home before she was a teenager, survived homelessness, forged documents to enter the workforce, and built a thriving ESL business before she was 18. This is Part 1 of a two-part interview; it ends on the cliffhanger that Maricel's abusive fiancΓ© threw her off a bridge.
Maricel's origins β extreme rural poverty in Cebu β
- Grew up in Balamban (a tiny town in Cebu province), "in the middle of nowhere"
- No electricity, no roads, no access to anything β had to cross six rivers and climb up and down mountains just to reach the main road
- One of 10 children β siblings spaced about 1β2 years apart
- She was the 4th child
- Despite the poverty, she credits her parents' strict discipline as the foundation for everything: wake up at 4 AM, collect firewood, fetch water β "like a military camp"
- Hated it as a kid, but now sees it as the best training ground for her later success
Childhood dream of marrying a foreigner β
- Since grade school (around grade 3), Maricel had a dream of marrying a foreigner β even though there were zero foreigners in her mountain village
- The dream started when she saw a Filipina in her area who had married a foreigner and had beautiful mixed twin kids
- In grade 1, she followed the mixed-race children around because "they were so pretty, they were aliens to me"
- She openly told classmates she wanted to marry a foreigner and got bullied relentlessly for it
- When asked why she wanted a foreigner, her childhood answer was blunt: "Because it's big" β to which classmates lost their minds
- She didn't care about the teasing and stuck to her goal
Leaving home at 11 β
- Made a promise to herself in grade 4: "As soon as I finish elementary, I'm leaving"
- Left home at 11 after completing elementary school because her parents couldn't afford to send 10 children to school
- Moved to the city (Cebu City) completely on her own
- Was so sheltered from mountain life that she'd never seen cars before β stood frozen at a crosswalk watching people walk through traffic, unable to figure out how to cross the street
- First job: working as a maid in someone's house (live-in domestic helper)
Homeless at 12 β
- While working as a maid and attending school as a working student (first year high school), she accidentally broke a glass window trying to climb in during lunch break when the owners were out
- Panicked because as a poor child, she thought glass was enormously expensive ("we thought it was like diamonds")
- Borrowed money, bought replacement glass, brought it back β but her boss was furious anyway
- Got fired and lost both her job and her home in one day
- Slept in the school that night at age 12
- Eventually someone took her in, but it was a formative experience of total vulnerability
Working in Carbon Market and the wet market β
- After the maid job, worked in Cebu's Carbon Market (a large public market)
- Worked in the wet market selling salt, soy sauce, and cooking oil β repacking products for resale
- Was doing this at 15 while attending college on a full scholarship
- The scholarship covered tuition but not transportation or food β her parents couldn't afford even the 50 pesos/day she needed for bus fare
- In high school, she only had 5 pesos β 2 pesos for one-way fare, then walked home in the afternoon to save the return fare
- Pea relates deeply β she had a nearly identical experience with poverty, working in markets, and barely affording school
Forging her birth certificate at 16 β
- At 16 (third or fourth year of high school), Maricel was fed up with domestic/market work
- Changed her birth year on her NSO (National Statistics Office) certificate by hand with a pen β faked her age from 16 to 19
- Pea compares her to Frank Abagnale (Catch Me If You Can)
- Used the forged documents to apply for corporate jobs β scheduled four interviews in a single day
- Landed a job as an executive assistant to a Japanese boss at an ESL (English as a Second Language) school in Cebu
- Also worked weekends as a promo girl β car shows, product launches, modeling gigs
- Was constantly told she was beautiful and pushed to join pageants; she participated in school competitions only because they added to her grades, not out of vanity β she genuinely didn't believe the compliments
Living independently at 15 β
- By third year of high school, moved into her own boarding house β shared a bed with roommates, but had her own space
- Both Pea and Maricel lived independently by 15 β Pea also had a boarding house situation at the same age
- Both agree the experience matured them and was ultimately positive despite the hardship
Building an ESL business at 17 β
- After six months as an executive assistant, watched her Japanese boss's ESL company grow rapidly
- Was already self-studying IT and web development β learning coding, building landing pages
- Used her job experience as a training ground, then quit to start her own ESL school
- Built the website herself, marketed to international students (Korean, Chinese, Japanese β all nationalities, not just one group)
- Hired native English-speaking teachers (she wasn't confident enough in her own English to teach)
- Innovated by creating a homestay program: adult international students would come to Cebu, live in provided housing, and study English β combining accommodation with education
- Nobody else was doing this model at the time, at least not at her scale
- Within a year, expanded to running summer and winter camps with over 100 students
Pea and Maricel bond over shared experiences and Filipino English β
- Both grew up in poverty, worked in markets, lived alone as teenagers
- Both discuss how Filipinos speak English but are taught by non-native teachers, leading to mispronunciations that stick for life
- Example: "comfortable" pronounced as "comfort-ABLE" because that's how Filipino teachers say it; "hippopotamus" mispronounced
- They note that Westerners/foreigners are NOT judgmental about Filipino English β but Filipinos are brutally judgmental of each other's English
- Both encourage other Filipinos to just be confident and speak β people will understand
Maricel's work ethic philosophy β
- "When I work, I always give it my best β not to impress my boss or the people around me, but because it brings me fulfillment and makes me happy"
- Extremely driven: "I don't want to die here poor" was her motivating thought since childhood
The abusive fiancΓ© β cliffhanger ending β
- Around age 18, Maricel got into a relationship with one of her ESL school's substitute teachers β a 45-year-old foreigner; she was his first fiancΓ©e
- The relationship turned abusive β driven by extreme jealousy on his part
- Physical abuse escalated: black eyes, hospital visits
- Pea and Maricel discuss how jealousy destroys relationships β both agree trust and respect are the two foundations, with love building on top; neither believes in "love at first sight" (more like "lust/attraction at first sight")
- Maricel reveals: "He threw me off the bridge" β the Cebu bridge
- Part 1 ends on this cliffhanger, with Pea promising the full story in Part 2