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This is Part 2 of Pea's interview with Maricel, the woman she tracked down after spotting her during a street video. Part 1 covered Maricel's childhood poverty and rise to business success by 17. This episode picks up with the murder attempt by her abusive fiancΓ©, how she met her Canadian husband at a 7-Eleven, their secret marriage, and how Maricel returned to the Philippines on a mission to change her family's mindset about money β opening six beauty salons to employ and empower them rather than just sending cash.
The murder attempt β thrown off the Cebu bridge β
- Maricel's fiancΓ© (a doctor, from a wealthy US-connected family) was violently jealous throughout their on-and-off relationship β she'd gotten black eyes and bruises multiple times but kept forgiving him
- He became increasingly suicidal and would tell Maricel over breakfast things like "I'll tie myself up and sink in the water so nobody finds my body β but before I do that, I'll kill you first"
- Maricel became so emotionally exhausted she reached a point of "I don't care anymore, do whatever you want"
- He asked to meet for "proper closure" β they met at a bar/restaurant/disco
- Maricel didn't drink alcohol β she loved mango shakes β and he drugged her shake with his own medicine (he was a doctor with access to drugs)
- She was taken unconscious to the Cebu bridge (the big one connecting Mandaue) at approximately 3 AM and pushed off
- She remembers nothing except a sensation of flipping through the air that "took forever to hit the ground" β she thought she was dreaming
- She woke up drowning in the water
- Doctors were amazed she survived with no fractures, though half her body was paralyzed and severely bruised
- He admitted to drugging her drinks but never admitted to being the one who had her thrown off
- Maricel tried to file charges, but his wealthy family threatened her family, and nothing came of it β he faced no consequences
Meeting her husband at 7-Eleven β
- After the bridge incident, Maricel was still being stalked by the ex-fiancΓ©
- She met her future husband (a Canadian stranger) at a 7-Eleven β she was buying something, he was sitting at a table drinking juice
- His opening line: "Oh my God, you're so beautiful β will you marry me?" β he didn't even ask her name
- Maricel's reaction: she literally ran away, thinking "my ex was crazy and this guy in front of me is another crazy guy"
- She also suspected he might be one of her ex's "aliporès" (people sent to follow or mess with her)
- They ran into each other again by coincidence at 11 PM that same night near the Cebu airport
- The second meeting made her give him a chance β she listened to him and thought "this guy is actually quite normal"
- He offered her his spare room to use as an office (she still had a business to run and needed internet; she didn't have electricity at her place)
- Maricel deliberately used this as a test: she wanted to see if he'd try to have sex with her β if he had, she would have disappeared and never spoken to him again
- He passed the test on night one (though she admits "something happened" within the first week)
Pea's dating advice sidebar (from Maricel's story) β
- Pea and Maricel both agree: if you want a decent Filipina β especially a province girl or a professional β do NOT try to seduce her on the first date
- Attempting sex on the first meeting is a massive turnoff for these women and guarantees you'll never see her again
- The exception: if she initiates, that's different
The secret marriage β less than 60 days β
- Maricel and her husband got married in under 60 days β beating 90 Day FiancΓ©
- He was 55; she was 20 (he's now 63, she's 27)
- The marriage was kept entirely secret from her family β only her father knew because parental consent was legally required (she was under 25)
- The secrecy was necessary because her ex-fiancΓ© was still stalking her and having people follow them β even during the marriage licensing process, someone was tailing them
- If her ex had found out she was available/getting married, Maricel believes he would have done "everything to get me back" β potentially violently
- They left the Philippines as soon as possible after the marriage
Leaving the Philippines β asylum and life in Mexico β
- Maricel's husband is Canadian, but she first went to the United States
- She sought asylum based on the murder attempt β someone was trying to kill her
- She believes having an existing business helped her immigration case
- She eventually spent so much time in Mexico that she became a permanent resident there
- She considers Mexico's quality of life "a lot better than here, by far"
His family's reaction β
- Her husband had been divorced twice before; Maricel is wife number three
- Every single person in his life β family and friends β tried to talk him out of marrying her
- The message was: "You're just in love with this young beautiful Filipina, it's a bad idea"
- He came to the Philippines for vacation and left with a wife β his friends were baffled
- Some friends later apologized to Maricel: "I'm so sorry, we really tried to break you apart"
- Maricel has never met any of his family to this day; he's not in good terms with his one child from a previous marriage; he's essentially disconnected from his family
Maricel's mission: changing her family's mindset β
- Maricel came back to the Philippines not to give her family money but to change how they think
- She has 10 siblings (6 girls), and as the one who married a foreigner, the expectation and pressure to be the family ATM was enormous
- Her husband initially suggested just sending money and letting the family start a business β Maricel refused, saying "Don't ever do that β they won't know how to manage the money"
- Her philosophy: "I hate giving money" β instead, she teaches them to build something themselves
- She opened a beauty clinic and trained her siblings herself β "shoved it into their throats until they were tired of spitting it out"
- Now has six beauty salons total, all staffed/run by family members
- She had a heart-to-heart with her family: "Just because I married a foreigner doesn't mean you can start getting money from us like a bank β that will never happen"
- Her husband's expenses are not her family's responsibility, and she earns her own money to support them rather than taking from him
Maricel's observations about Filipino mindset β
- Filipinos aren't raised to be leaders β they're raised to be followers: "Study hard, work hard, get a good job"
- Nobody told her growing up "be your own boss" or "start something" β that's not instilled in Filipino culture
- The default Filipino assumption: if you marry a foreigner, your husband becomes "the ATM machine with the banana" β the family's financial provider
- She sees fear as the root problem β fear of making mistakes, fear of failure, lack of assertiveness
- She believes someone has to believe in people and change their mindset: "No, you CAN do it"
Lighthearted closer β
- Pea asks if Maricel's notable physical features are real β her body ("exercise"), eyelashes (not real), eyebrows (not real), but breasts (real β "just exercise")
- Maricel mentions she's moving back to Mexico in April β this was her last year in the Philippines