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Pea walks through a collection of Filipino customs, habits, and cultural quirks that confuse, amuse, or frustrate foreigners living in or visiting the Philippines. She positions herself as a cultural ambassador translating behaviors that longtime expats stop questioning but that blindside newcomers.
Hand gestures mean opposite things β
- The "OK" sign (thumb and index finger in a circle) means the number three in the Philippines β Filipinos count starting from the pinky finger to the thumb, not from the thumb outward
- If your Filipina partner flashes what looks like "OK" when you ask how many bracelets she wants for Christmas, she means three β show up with one and there will be confusion
- The Filipino "come here" gesture (palm-down wave toward yourself) looks like "go away" to Westerners
- Pea tells a specific story: she watched a couple at a grocery store where the Filipina found a shorter checkout line and tried to wave her foreign partner over; he'd start pushing the cart toward her, then she'd do the "come here" gesture and he'd interpret it as "go away" and push back to the long line; this went back and forth multiple times until the guy gave up and stayed put
- Pea knew exactly what was happening but didn't intervene β "in true Filipino fashion I wasn't going to get involved, and besides it was just too much fun to watch"
The obsession with testing products before purchase β
- If you buy light bulbs, the cashier will ask "has this been tested?" β you're expected to go back to the department, find someone to unbox each bulb, plug them in one by one, confirm they work, repackage them, then bring them back to pay
- Buying something like a TV means allocating an extra 30 minutes while the salesman fully unboxes it (styrofoam and all), opens the battery bag for the remote, and tests every function
- The obvious question: everything comes with a warranty, so why not just return it if it breaks? Pea says you technically can, but it involves a "giant hassle of paperwork"
- She honestly admits she doesn't know why almost all stores do this and asks viewers for an explanation
Giving directions by landmarks, not compass points β
- You'll never hear "a kilometer west of here" because most Filipinos don't use north/south/east/west
- Instead, directions are based on landmarks and relative position β things are described by what they're next to
- This works fine in small towns but gets tricky when navigating across an island
- Pea notes Google Maps has largely solved this problem
The never-ending video call β
- Filipinas (and Filipinos generally, though mostly women) treat video calls as ambient companionship, not information exchange
- Calls can last for hours even with long stretches of silence β someone puts the phone down, goes and does something for 10 minutes, comes back, picks up where they left off, and the other person just waits
- Westerners typically want to exchange information quickly and then go do something else
- Filipinos call friends, coworkers, or family members and "just hang out on the phone and spend the whole day with them"
- Pea asks foreign partners to "go easy on us β it's just what we do"
Eating with mouths open and communal food handling β
- Filipinos commonly eat and talk with their mouths open β not considered rude in Filipino culture the way it is in some Western cultures
- People may stick their fingers into a communal plate to grab what they want β "our version of eating family style"
- Pea frames this as fair warning, not criticism
The extreme aversion to rain β
- As soon as a few drops fall, Filipinos whip out umbrellas; without one, they dart indoors; if they can't do either, they put a hand on their head "like that would do any good"
- Even if they're swimming and it starts raining, they'll get out of the water "like being chased by a shark" β despite already being soaked
- Reasons Pea identifies:
- Pollution in big cities β people don't want dirty rain sticking to them
- A widespread cultural belief that rain will make you sick (she says she doesn't know of evidence for this but a "huge majority" of Filipinos believe it)
- Some women just don't want to walk around in soaked clothes
- She quips: "I'm sure to most of you guys there are worse sights than a wet Filipina"
No concept of "inside voices" β
- Pea describes sitting peacefully at a cafΓ© and having a waiter scream into your ear to tell another waiter they're out of lettuce
- Depending on your temperament, this either makes you jump out of your chair or doesn't faze you (if you grew up in a house with 10 kids)
- The noise isn't just indoors: car horns, people yelling, whistles β "just about anything you can imagine to upset the peace"
- Filipinos don't even notice the noise level
- Pea notes bluntly: "The Philippines might not be the best choice for people who suffer from PTSD"
The word "slang" means something different β
- When a Filipino says you have "slang" in your speech, they don't mean colloquialisms or colorful language
- In Filipino usage, "slang" means speaking with an accent β any accent that makes someone difficult to understand
- Any foreigner whose first language isn't English can be told they're "speaking slang"
- It's not an insult β it's their way of saying the language barrier is real and "we're getting a nosebleed" (Filipino expression for struggling with difficult English)
Why are people still wearing masks? β
- Over a month after the Philippines dropped its mask mandate (only required on public transport and some indoor locations), Pea did an informal survey and found about 90% of people on the streets still wearing masks
- She compares it to "the prison warden opened the doors to the cells but the prisoners don't want to leave"
- She floats possible reasons: fear of getting sick, force of habit, or it's become a fashion statement
- She admits she has "no clue" and plans a future video where she asks people directly