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CURSE OF THE HOT FILIPINA - The Dangers Of Dating A Gorgeous Woman

πŸ“… 2023-01-24⏱ 12:35
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Pea explains the radically different beauty standards between Western and Filipino cultures, why the "mismatched" couples you see in the Philippines aren't what you think, and delivers a pointed warning about the dangers of bringing a gorgeous young Filipina back to a Western country before the relationship has been properly tested. She uses her own experience in the UK as a case study for how quickly the dynamic can flip.

The "mismatch" illusion that shocks foreigners on arrival ​

  • The first thing you'll notice stepping off the plane is ordinary-looking guys with stunningly beautiful women
  • Your programmed assumption is that the man must be buying the woman β€” what else could explain the mismatch?
  • But Pea argues there IS no mismatch β€” Filipinas in these couples often think THEY are the lucky ones

Filipino vs. Western beauty standards are almost perfectly inverted ​

  • Filipino men prefer: fair (light) skin and women with some meat on their bones β€” "thick" isn't a deal breaker
  • Western men prefer: tan skin and slender women, even very skinny ones
  • The Filipinas that Western men find "insanely hot" are often the ones local guys consider unattractive
  • Pea references her own situation from the previous video: Filipino men "generally won't give me the time of day"
  • This is why local Filipino men mostly don't mind foreigners dating Filipinas β€” "they're hunting for bear and you're out for Beaver, so you're not really encroaching on each other's territory"

Why your Filipina doesn't believe you when you call her beautiful ​

  • Many dark-skinned, slender Filipinas grew up being mocked β€” called "housekeepers" (katulong), told they were "from the mountains" because of their dark skin or thin build
  • They knew they'd never win beauty pageants and would be "last ones asked to the prom"
  • After decades of hearing the same message, they internalize it β€” "when you look in the mirror, that's what you see"
  • So when a foreigner says "you're gorgeous," they think you're either blind or feeding them BS
  • Some Filipinas never fully believe it because in their world, they are the rejects

The flip side: foreigners get graded on a different curve too ​

  • Western men become "exotic looking" in the Philippines and get extra appearance points
  • Age isn't a big negative factor
  • About 80% of Filipinas Pea surveyed in a previous video said they thought love handles (the "dad bod") were cute
  • Women in general aren't as visually fixated as men β€” they want a good-looking guy (which they think most foreigners are) but aren't as stimulated by visuals alone

The intense mate-guarding behavior explained ​

  • Filipinas often see the foreigner as the prize and are terrified he'll "wake up one day and realize he could have a much hotter woman"
  • This explains the extreme jealousy: a gorgeous young Filipina throwing a fit when her older, out-of-shape boyfriend even looks at another woman on TV or YouTube
  • Pea says guys literally have to watch her videos in private to avoid "a nuclear explosion"
  • This behavior happens regardless of the woman's economic status β€” it's not just poor women afraid to lose a meal ticket
  • It's annoying but it's rooted in the Filipina genuinely believing you are out of her league

The core warning: do NOT bring a Filipina to the West prematurely ​

  • Pea gets emails "almost every day" from guys who've been "dating online" (she questions how you date someone without being physically together) and want to bring the girl home
  • She compares it to running with scissors β€” your mom should have taught you better
  • The problem: once you take a pretty Filipina to a Western country, everything flips
  • She'll get hit on constantly β€” by the guy at 7-Eleven, by her immigration attorney, by every man she encounters
  • Pea experienced this herself when she went to the UK: she went from a woman nobody looked at to a woman men couldn't stop looking at
  • If the Filipina isn't mature enough to handle the sudden attention, she might start seeing her relationship with you less favorably

What Pea is NOT saying ​

  • She's not saying you can never bring your Filipina to the West
  • She's not saying every Filipina will jump ship at the first better offer
  • But the relationship needs to have stood the test of time β€” at minimum a couple of years together in the Philippines β€” before you take that risk
  • If you bring a "gorgeous 24-year-old you barely know that doesn't have any experience in the real world" into an environment where every man is telling her she's a beauty queen, "you might just end up feeling the curse of the hot Filipina"

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