Sex After 60 - A Mature Filipina On Life And Love

Pea interviews Glenda, a widowed former university professor from Dumaguete who taught public speaking, debate, and business communication. Glenda is sharp, funny, and unapologetically open about sex, dating, aging, and what's wrong with Philippine society. The conversation covers everything from her dating preferences to the failure of sex education in Catholic schools to the crab mentality that keeps Filipinos poor.

Glenda's background and personality ​

• Widowed for 10-15 years, has two grown children, still teaches on a limited basis
• Passionate about Zumba dancing and singing — doesn't drink or smoke
• Self-describes as optimistic and positive-minded
• When Pea asks what she does for fun in Dumaguete: "You choose your fun"

Glenda's dating preferences — wide open and unapologetic ​

• Open to locals, foreigners, "anyone who is kind, who is nice"
• Age range: "40 to 150 years old" — Pea assumes she's kidding, but Glenda is dead serious
• Her logic for preferring older men: "These are the men who are already settled and who won't go about cheating, who won't break your heart"
• Would consider someone younger (but not as young as her son's age) — "it depends, there should be chemistry"
• Doesn't think old, doesn't feel old — "I can always jive with someone way younger than I am"
• On younger men: "He has to be someone who thinks maturely... to handle this hot stuff — not really, to handle an old woman, a joke"

Would she relocate for a foreigner? — absolutely not ​

• "He has to be someone who wants to settle here, otherwise no"
• Actually met someone who could have been special but he wanted her to relocate — she refused: "I have my dogs, I have my family, I have my friends"

Glenda's earlier view of foreigners — thought they looked like dolls ​

• When she was young, foreigners "seemed like they were not real people — they looked like dolls, dolls with blue eyes" — she didn't want a boyfriend like that
• Her perspective completely changed in her 40s

How long to date before getting serious? — one week ​

• "You would know already whether you are in sync with each other, whether you belong to the same brand... and the same species"

Marriage as the ideal goal ​

• Glenda believes marriage should be the ultimate goal — "the only way to be happy is to find happiness with someone, to share it with someone"
• She's still open to remarriage if the right person is available

Cheating — a hard no, fueled by social media ​

• "Cheating for me is like a big no-no" — calls it "talamak" (rampant)
• Blames social media for making it too easy: "The ability to contact a person, a click of your finger — let's chat, let's meet up"

The younger generation losing values ​

• Kids losing virginity as early as 13-14, influenced by what they see on social media
• "When they have the gadgets with them and you have Wi-Fi, they are free to surf anywhere — these are dangerous times"
• The 90s kids were the last generation to enjoy playing outside without technology

The Philippines: #1 in porn usage ​

• Pea drops this stat and Glenda is genuinely shocked — "Really? Is that a shame? It is"
• Pea highlights the contradiction: "We're supposed to be one of the most religious countries in the world"
• Even priests reportedly watch — Glenda recounts a priest telling her "We watch that too, because for educational purposes" — Pea quips: "So it's either education or recreation"

The complete failure of sex education in the Philippines ​

• Traditional religious groups have fought against proper sex ed for years
• Glenda taught at St. Paul University — the "sex education" class was taught by a nun and was actually just "good manners and right conduct" with zero actual sex content — no reproductive organs, nothing
• Pea's own experience: when she got her first menstruation, her mom threw flower petals at her (superstitious tradition) — Pea was terrified and confused: "What the heck, what does the flowers got to do with my flower down there?"
• Both women grew up believing you could get pregnant just from kissing or holding hands
• Glenda says girls in her generation never wore bathing suits because it was considered almost naked — she wore one for the first time in her 60s: "I never wore this before, I'm going to wear it now"
• Their first real sex education came from watching "Betamax" — a group of post-college girls watched together and were shocked: "Oh my goodness, where everything was shown"
• Pea's argument: you can't protect kids anymore because they already have the information in their hands — "what we do is equip them"
• Glenda recounts a joke about a child watching a love scene — the mother covers her eyes but the girl asks "Is there a woman under?" — illustrating that kids figure things out anyway

Birth control — Glenda is firmly in favor ​

• "They're just having kids like kids are just popping and they don't have jobs — there's a parade of them"
• Especially needed in rural areas where "they don't have a lot of recreations and the recreation is only like making babies" until they have 8-10 children
• Pea notes friends who got pregnant early refused contraception because they feared it would "ruin their reproductive system" — despite birth control being available for 50-60 years
• Both agree it's a cycle of poverty

Sex after 60 — Glenda's most memorable segment ​

• "It's very important — it's like food, it's a necessity"
• The bicycle analogy: "If you don't use it after a time, it's going to rust — it needs to be used and exercised because you don't want cobwebs to start growing there"
• It's MORE fun after 60 because: no worry about pregnancy ("nature's natural birth control — close shop"), more experience and knowledge accumulated over the years ("you have a library of the things you have learned")
• When younger: "How can you enjoy? Your mind — I might get pregnant, I might be doing the wrong thing"
• The challenge of finding partners at her age: "Men my age are either taken, dead, or very married — so what's left would be the young ones"
• On older men who might have performance issues: "Sometimes they also get help" — then pivots to finances: "How about his other resources?" with a wink

Challenges facing older Filipinas ​

• Aging women become "invisible to men" — even 30-year-olds are considered "leftovers" if unmarried
• Age discrimination in employment — "We have age limits, age limitation — you just have to create your own job"
• Glenda appreciates YouTube because there's no age discrimination and no boss

The biggest problems in the Philippines that need to change ​

• Crab mentality: "Someone growing up, you want to pull her down — gossiping, talking about the negative things" — "That's why we are poor in the Philippines"
• Filipino time: when you say 4 o'clock, "that's the time they start waking up, going to the shower" — if a party is at 3 o'clock, people arrive at 6 o'clock
  • Glenda considers lateness disrespectful: "Imagine the person waiting there for an hour — exactly disrespectful"
  • Connects it to poverty: "That is why we are poor in the Philippines — because of the time wasted"

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