WHAT IS A FILIPINA LOOKING FOR? Dating A Filipina

Pea continues her panel discussion with Angel, Fritch, and Lauren (a new guest), shifting focus to practical advice on where to meet Filipinas, what they look for in online profiles, and how to end things respectfully. The conversation covers online dating norms in the Philippines, what turns Filipinas off, the importance of exploring the country before chasing women, and the panel's take on Filipino men refusing to wear condoms.

How the panelists meet guys ​

• One met her partner on Tinder
• Pea notes that Tinder in the Philippines is a legitimate dating platform, not just a hookup app like in the U.S. — Badoo is also popular
• Other panelists prefer meeting through friends and social connections rather than online dating
• Lauren says she's not actively searching, so she hasn't used dating apps

Pea's advice on online dating ​

• She doesn't recommend any specific dating app because all of them have scammers — Facebook included
• Her core rule: never send money to anyone you meet online
• Her strong opinion (which she acknowledges is uncommon): if you've been talking to someone for two years and haven't met in person, that's not dating — "You have to actually see the guy or see the girl or touch the girl or smell the person"
• Until you meet face to face, it's not real

What Filipinas look for in a guy's online profile ​

• Bio/interests first: Lauren says bios matter most because you need to see if you have common interests and a potential connection — looks come second
• Example of what not to put: "I killed 28 people" (joke, but the point is keep it normal)
• Photos that reveal personality: Fritch says photos speak for who a person is — a guy with lots of dog photos signals he's into dogs, a guy always at the bar raises questions about his lifestyle
• Lauren's ideal profile: a mix of selfie, full body shot in a nice outfit, and a "photo dump" with scenery — something that expresses personality
• Social media activity can signal confidence level — people who post a lot seem more confident, though some amazing people are low-key
• Major turn-offs:
  • Guys flexing muscles — "who falls for that, seriously?"
  • Pea says a quality guy won't do that
  • Guys who set their age range to only 18-23 — one panelist says this is too narrow and potentially means they're missing someone great who's 25
  • Inaccurate age information — "put your actual age"
  • You don't need to put your income — it's not important

Where to meet Filipinas in person (beyond apps) ​

• Lauren's advice: explore the Philippines first before pursuing women — understand where she's coming from before trying to take her away from her country
• "You find love in unexpected places" — be spontaneous, go on adventures, and you'll meet a girl who loves adventure too
• Group tours, tourist spots (plenty of single women), and church are all suggested
• Pea references 90 Day Fiancé as an example of what not to do — specifically mentioning a guy who lied about his height
• If you want someone religious, go to church
• The panel's overall message: don't come to the Philippines specifically for women — come to experience the country and love may follow

Pea's take on Western dating dynamics ​

• She describes the current Western dating scene as "cringe-worthy" — not that all Western women are bad, but enough of them have unrealistically high expectations that are very difficult to meet
• This isn't the reason to come to the Philippines, though — women should be secondary to exploring the place

How to end things respectfully ​

• All panelists agree: be honest and direct, don't string people along
• Lauren's approach: after one or two dates, if there's no connection, she's upfront — "I want to be honest with you, I'm not really feeling things"
• As long as you're kind and honest, it usually ends on a good note and you can stay friends
• Pea shares a personal anecdote: she went on a date with a guy who told her honestly that he was seeing other girls and was actually in love with one of them — he wanted to confirm his feelings by going on the date with Pea, then told her the truth afterward. She appreciated his honesty enormously: "Thank you very much for being such an honest person"
• What NOT to do: ghosting, leaving people on read, disrespecting them
• Warning to women too: don't string a guy along just for free meals, gifts, and entertainment — if it's not working, break it off gently

After-hours segment: Filipino guys and condoms ​

• Filipino men commonly refuse to wear condoms, citing reduced sensation
• The panelists push back firmly: "Pick your problem — would you rather be uncomfortable for 10 minutes or your lifetime with struggles?"
• Lauren says it's attractive when a guy is "respectful and responsible" about what his partner wants — "Prioritize your girl before yourself, especially when it comes to being intimate"
• Both men and women need to be responsible about contraception
• Pea's one-liner: "If you can't grab the back, we ain't playing ball"

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