Are Asian Girls Easy?

Pea tackles a question she says people discuss privately but rarely address publicly: whether Asian women are "easy." She systematically breaks down attitudes toward casual sex across different Asian countries, then focuses on the Philippines, arguing that Filipinas' relationship to sex is uniquely shaped by their pre-colonial Pacific Islander heritage clashing with centuries of imposed Spanish Catholic morality.

Defining "easy" and why the question doesn't work for all of Asia ​

• Pea defines "easy" specifically as the probability of sex after a date has been agreed to — not how easy it is to meet or date someone
• She argues the question is meaningless when applied to "Asian girls" as a whole because the cultures are radically different
• Japan: very xenophobic society, Western men are treated as "other," vast majority of Japanese women are indifferent to foreigners — you might be interesting as a novelty but won't be accepted
• Korea: similar but to a lesser degree — a Korean woman with a Western guy may get disapproving looks, parents may threaten to disown her, not much hookup culture, chances are low unless you're paying
• China: Western men are considered more of a prize, Chinese women will sometimes pursue foreigners, casual sex isn't as taboo, hookup culture is alive and increasingly acceptable
• Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand: varying degrees of all these mindsets with each country's own spin

The prosperity-to-accessibility pattern ​

• Pea identifies a broad pattern: the more industrialized and prosperous the Asian country, the less likely women are to sleep with you
• When women lack basic security, they're more likely to use sex as "their most effective bait" to lock down a man who can alleviate their survival worries
• She acknowledges genuine love and attraction can coexist with this dynamic but says that's a separate topic

Are Filipinas easy? — The economic argument and its limits ​

• Because the Philippines is poor relative to its neighbors, the economic desperation dynamic does apply, and Pea admits: "Yes, some Filipinas are easy. Sorry Mom."
• But she pushes back hard on the "no money no honey" crowd by pointing out how much sex happens between Filipinas and local men who have zero financial prospects
• The Philippines has massive numbers of unwed mothers — these women clearly weren't chasing bank accounts because "most people here don't even have bank accounts, we survive paycheck to paycheck"
• Something else beyond money is driving Filipino sexual behavior

The Pacific Islander identity — the real cultural explanation ​

• Filipinos are geographically designated as Southeast Asian but many see themselves as Pacific Islanders — 48% of Filipino Americans check the "Pacific Islander" box instead of "Asian" on ethnicity forms
• This matters because Pacific Islanders and Polynesians historically had extremely relaxed attitudes about sex
• Filipinos aren't Polynesian but share significant cultural overlap
• A 1986 survey of 127 indigenous Pacific cultures found only 30 practiced monogamy — sexual faithfulness within marriage wasn't even a concept, multiple lovers were common, large age gaps were unremarkable, and public sex was accepted and ignored
• Pea delivers a comedic bit imagining walking past people having sex in public: "Oh hi George, hi Margaret, how are the kids? Oh, hi kids!"
• A 1782 Western researcher wrote that "there are no people in the world that indulge themselves more in their sexual appetite"
• Before Spanish colonization, unmarried Filipinos were actively encouraged to participate in sexual activities, and polygamy was the norm

How colonization rewired Filipino sexuality ​

• Spain's 300-year colonial occupation substituted its religion and cultural norms for indigenous ones
• Sex went from carefree and guilt-free to something only permitted for married monogamous couples
• Nudity and multiple partners became crimes
• Around 1900, American Protestants added another layer of restrictions on prostitution and pornography
• Today the Philippines is overwhelmingly Catholic

The split personality: public shame vs. private behavior ​

• Most Filipinos go to church and say they believe the Bible, but it's "do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to sex
• Public displays of affection beyond holding hands are considered distasteful — kissing in public gets treated "about the same way" as having intercourse in front of everyone
• But behind closed doors, Filipinos are the #1 viewers of pornography in the entire world
• There's a lot of sex happening, and most of it is not between married monogamous couples — "in fact, I'd say they're getting the least of it most of the time"
• Pea argues colonization couldn't fully erase the collective cultural identity, using an analogy: if a foreign power occupied the US and tried to stamp out the concept of freedom, they might never fully "beat the American out of you"
• Same with Filipinos: "We're still Spanish in some ways, but stubbornly Filipino once you scratch the surface. We're a lusty people, lovers of wine and song like our ancestors, but we've had so many cultural taboos stamped on our foreheads that we barely resemble who we once were."

The practical answer: if she agrees to date you, probably yes ​

• Pea states directly: if a Filipina agrees to go on a date with you, she's probably open to sex — it's rare for a woman to agree to go out but refuse intimacy, especially if she likes you and wants a relationship
• Filipinas already expect men to want intimacy and "can be eager participants even if we don't have much prior experience"
• Some Filipinas say they'll stay virgins until marriage, "and more power to them, but in reality we're a lot better at making resolutions than we are at sticking to them"

The exception: upper-class Filipinas ​

• There's an upper class of Filipinas who probably won't give you a chance — not because they don't find foreigners attractive, but because their families expect them to stay with their own kind
• They usually marry other Filipinos unless the foreigner is very high status in wealth or position
• But this is only the top few percent
• The rest "aren't quite as snobbish" — Pea points to her best friend Gracie, a highly educated gorgeous attorney who married a foreigner
• Pea says she herself will probably end up marrying a foreigner too

Pushback on the "all foreigners are disgusting slobs" narrative ​

• Pea says when she hears people claim all foreigners can't find women in their own countries, she knows "for a fact that you're just plain wrong"
• She acknowledges there are scummy foreigners but says there are bad apples in every bunch

The nuance on desperation vs. genuine selectivity ​

• A Filipina from a very poor family may face enormous pressure to find and keep a man "by whatever means necessary" — she won't be picky and may use sex quickly to lure
• But there are also plenty of Filipinas who won't jump into bed, who only date to marry, from all different backgrounds and income levels
• These are the women viewers consider "prizes" — and they're "hidden in plain sight all around you," and "the one thing they're not is easy"

📺 Watch the full video on YouTube

🔔 Subscribe to The Filipina Pea