What Filipinas Like In Bed - And Other Unusual Quirks!

Pea delivers another candlelit culture episode covering a wide range of Filipino quirks that foreigners notice but rarely understand, from road behavior and communication habits to bedroom customs. She explains the cultural logic behind each one, drawing on viewer questions and her own experience to show how these small oddities reflect deeper patterns in Filipino thinking.

Filipinos don't hold doors for women, but it's not a feminist statement ​

• Unlike in the West where some women take offense at door-holding, Filipinos simply never adopted it as a courtesy norm
• Pea was impressed by how men in the American South would race ahead to hold a door open regardless of the woman's appearance
• The real issue is a general "me first" mindset — Filipinos will stop at the bottom of an escalator to decide where to go, completely oblivious to people piling up behind them
• Same mindset applies to traffic: no courtesy yielding, you just push into the lane and dare the other driver to do something about it

Philippine roads are genuinely dangerous due to lack of safety infrastructure ​

• Lanes can end abruptly in the dark with no warning signs, cones, or flashing lights
• Pea shares a personal story: her little niece Gia's grandfather died when his motorbike hit an unmarked pile of gravel in the middle of the road — flipped over the handlebars and broke his neck on the rocks
• This is why cars in the Philippines don't have cruise control — you can never relax behind the wheel
• Even taking a taxi can surprise you: your driver may pull over mid-ride, get out, pee on the side of the road, zip up, and continue driving like nothing happened — because to Filipinos, nothing unusual did happen

Filipinas and armpit obsession ​

• Filipinas commonly say they hate their nose, skin, teeth, and armpits
• Pea has covered the skin and nose insecurities before, and teeth are self-explanatory, but armpits seem odd to foreigners
• Filipinas grade each other's armpits — it's a status symbol among women
• Many Filipinas have dark skin under their arms with creases and bumpy "chicken skin" texture
• If you have bad pits, you keep your arms down and never raise your hand in a sleeveless top — other women's eyes go straight to your armpits and give you a look of disgust
• Men couldn't care less, but it's serious business among women
• Pea shows her own armpits on camera (calls it "scandalous"), grades them as "about average," and notes she only shaves once a year because she's basically hairless — "the perk of being Asian"

Filipinos and obsessive photo-taking ​

• The "little Asian snapping photos" stereotype exists, but Filipinos take it to another level
• They photograph their food, themselves eating the food, the restaurant, and the car they drove to get there
• Every self-respecting Filipina has a phone jammed with the most boring, useless photos ever taken
• Nobody will ever look at them, but what matters is knowing they're in there "in case we ever need them — which we won't"

Filipino communication is maddeningly vague ​

• Getting a straight answer from a Filipino is "like trying to catch a fly with chopsticks"
• Even Filipinos don't get straight answers from each other
• Pea acts out a classic exchange: asking your girlfriend if she's hungry results in answers like "I ate a little at lunch" and "it's up to you" — no matter how precisely you phrase the question, she'll dodge giving a direct answer
• But if you don't ask and she goes hungry, she'll be upset you let that happen

Filipinos mangle English pronunciation in specific, consistent ways ​

• Examples: "broli" (broccoli), "category" with wrong stress, "embryo" mispronounced, "hippopotamus" butchered, "atachi" (attaché), "rabien" (rabies)
• Vicks VapoRub is called "Bicks" and used for nearly everything — sticking a Bicks inhaler up your nose supposedly prevents motion sickness, and rubbing it on the bottom of your feet while sleeping keeps sickness from entering your body

Doctor visits work differently ​

• Appointments aren't scheduled the same way because Filipinos are never on time
• Doctors use first-come-first-served on the day of the appointment, guaranteeing a steady stream of patients but meaning you might wait all day unless you show up at 5 a.m.

Buying electronics requires pre-testing ​

• Before you can take an electrical product to the cashier, many stores require it to be tested first
• Buying a pack of light bulbs means they'll unscrew every single one and test it before you can pay
• Returns are a nightmare involving the salesperson, the manager, 30 minutes of discussion, and you'd better have your receipt

Filipinas never put things back where they found them ​

• They're happy to borrow your screwdriver or duct tape, but the tools end up wherever they were last used, not back in the toolbox
• Pea acknowledges this annoys partners and promises "to do better next time, even though we won't"

Bedroom habits: Filipinas hold your "lumber while you slumber" ​

• Pea made a viral video about this three years ago and it keeps coming back up
• After reading thousands of comments and talking to hundreds of women, she confirms it's an Asian thing in general and a Filipina thing in particular
• Western women sometimes do it but not nearly as much
• Pea's theory on why: it helps her fall asleep, "like a handheld pacifier"
• Deeper reason: insecurity — "as long as we have a firm grip on your manhood, we know it's not sneaking away in the middle of the night to go find some other womanhood"
• Also: "it just makes a perfect handle to hold while you're asleep"
• Many guys say they couldn't sleep that way, but she says you get used to it — it's a comfort thing, not a sexual thing

Filipinas' sexual experience tends to be limited ​

• Even if not virgins, most are not "well-rounded with all the different carnal activities"
• Regarding oral, they're "most likely a rookie" and it's the partner's job to provide coaching
• Not much experience with toys or advanced positions
• One notable gap: Filipinas are bad at giving feedback during sex — "people don't talk much while they're doing the deed," so the partner has to read non-verbal cues

Filipinas like hickeys ​

• Getting marked on the neck is common and doesn't carry the "high school" stigma it might in the West
• Filipino guys are notorious for giving hickeys, possibly as a way of marking territory
• Filipinas don't seem to mind and tease each other when they spot one
• Pea shows her own neck: "I haven't been having any nights of passion lately, but a girl can always dream"

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