10 Reasons Why You Do NOT Want A Filipina!

Pea ran a poll asking viewers about their biggest issues dating Filipinas, received thousands of responses, and uses this video to let men vent about their real experiences while explaining the cultural reasons behind each frustration.

The poll setup ​

• YouTube only allows four response options, so Pea seeded the poll with common complaints: Filipinas only caring about money, telling too many lies, and chaotic family lives ruining the relationship
• But the real substance came from the comments, where men went into much more detail
• Pea reads viewer comments, lets them vent, then explains why these problems exist and how to deal with them

Jealousy — the most common complaint, "almost become synonymous with the word Filipina" ​

• Tim K: first two Filipinas "got crazy jealous and claimed I was cheating if I didn't contact them enough on certain days" — ended both; told the third one upfront he'd end things if she started accusing him, and so far she hasn't
• Mason D: "constantly having to account for my whereabouts, prove my innocence, and keep checking in" — two years of it pushed him away
• Greg W: girlfriend asked about an ex and got mad at his honest reply
• George: can't mention any female coworker or friend without his Filipina wanting to know exactly what they talked about and if they met somewhere; she insists on friending all his Facebook contacts to monitor what's happening
• Mr. A: "I can't even watch YouTube without her demanding to see what made me laugh — especially if it's the Filipina P" — says this will likely end the relationship
• Pea's explanation of WHY Filipinas are so jealous: it's really about insecurity, not irrationality
  • The man represents something very rare: a once-in-a-lifetime shot at escaping poverty or finding true love
  • "Every Filipina knows how replaceable she is" — she knows there are a hundred other women who'd love to take her place
  • Even if the man says "I'm old and dusty, I'm the lucky one," she won't believe him
  • She feels she has to fight to keep him, which includes "constant vigilance against any other Filipinas penetrating her fortifications and worming their way into your life or onto your friends list"
  • She's "terrified of being replaced and very insecure about her own value, no matter what you tell her"

Jealousy and sabotage from family and friends (crab mentality) ​

• Michael H: "shocking to see the level of envy and jealousy with their closest relatives and the drama and sabotage that comes with it"
• Grim G: family assumes she's living in excess because she's with a foreigner, demands money for fabricated reasons, manipulates her using emotion, and the money never goes where they said
• Pea explains the Filipina is caught like "the flag in the center of a rope in a tug of war" — she owes loyalty to family but wants to be with her partner, guaranteeing drama and a fight over money

Money demands and gold-digging behavior ​

• Uno: "Half of them are gold diggers with super strong family ties — and no, I'm not paying for your great uncle's car repair just because we're dating"
• Baba T: "the focus always turns to cash — she wants a new camera, needs money for a camping trip"
• Add A: constant money requests with an ever-growing list
• JK Crawford: describes a predictable three-day cycle — day one, she seems nice; day two, she mentions a problem worrying her; day three, she's asking for money — and blames both Filipinas AND "the army of simps who go straight for their wallet, making it a lot worse for everyone else"
• Pea agrees with the simp critique: when men rush to open their wallets, they cultivate a new crop of women who realize how easy it is to get money by twisting the truth
• Word spreads through friend networks: "when a Filipina can get a month's wage by telling some Western guy she just met online that she needs a tooth pulled, there's going to be a whole bunch more women grabbing their cell phones and making a profile on a dating site"

Lying and saving face ​

• Jeff D: "most are liars and cheaters — I have yet to meet one that's all about love"
• Pea pushes back on "most" being cheaters but lets him vent
• Notes that getting money under false pretenses is one form of lying, but "saving face" is another major one
• Michael I: "saving face is really difficult to deal with in the West — it's a huge red flag she isn't trustworthy," but over time some Filipinas learn that unvarnished truth earns more love
• Brandon P: "she refuses to be honest — it's like she's just playing a role instead of letting me learn who she really is... not much different than an AI girlfriend" — when she makes mistakes, it's "just excuse after excuse"
• Pea's explanation: many Filipinas are taught from birth never to admit wrongdoing and never to let their reputation suffer — losing "face" or honor should be avoided at all cost
• References a previous video she made about the relationship between saving face and lying

Communication and intellectual disconnect ​

• Robert M: "the two I dated had no mind of their own or even a preference of food — it's hard to treat someone as an adult when you're constantly playing guessing games"
• Mly D: the biggest problem is getting her to make any decision, even minor ones — "if I hear 'it's up to you' again, I think I'll scream"
• Richard T: inability to distinguish wants from needs — "we don't need any more useless garbage clogging up our home"
• George: language barrier creates emotional misunderstandings — he once said "you little devil" and she started crying, thinking he literally called her the devil
• Wabash: humor doesn't translate — "she doesn't get any of my jokes and they actually seem to hurt her feelings — sarcasm is definitely not well received"
• Pea explains: many Filipinas, especially from the provinces, "live in very small worlds where the only things that interest them are whatever happens in their own neighborhood" — "we only look at the sky to see if it's going to rain, not to wonder about the stars"
• Helix B: "the biggest problem is a lack of stimulating, intelligent conversation"
• Shaun G: "they don't really like to interact or have a conversation — when you ask them certain things, they just choose not to answer"
• A Lewis: dated about 10 Filipinas, and despite checking many boxes, "it's their inability to connect on a psychological level that always seems to end things — they're one-dimensional creatures in that regard"

Rapid-fire additional complaints from viewers ​

• The Coconut: hypersensitivity, poor communication, "new urban sense of entitlement," immaturity at age 32, excessive pride, lack of humility
• Gabe G: lack of accountability, "it's just being a woman," childish behavior like "tempo" (silent treatment) even when it's critically important to communicate
• Gregory T: "my girlfriend tried tempo but it didn't work — I can do tempo for decades"
• Fix TL: "with a Filipina, it's all or nothing — they expect instant full commitment and being head over heels from the first second of meeting"
• Chivalry Is Dead: demands clear communication, healthy food habits, and total financial control — "no money goes in or out without my consent" — his Filipina found this a "rude awakening since she expected things to be easy"

Pea's overarching advice ​

• A lot of these problems can be handled if dealt with in advance
• "As soon as you realize that you want to pursue a relationship, have a serious talk about the things you expect"
• "Don't be a wimp. Tell her what you will and will not tolerate and do it before it becomes a problem."
• In the Western world you shouldn't have to warn someone to be honest or not accuse you of cheating, but with a Filipina, setting boundaries upfront actually does both of you a favor
• Preemptive note: she always tells both sides, so a future poll will cover the best traits of Filipinas and why they're a better choice

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