Pea sits down with three bisexual Filipinas to ask how they discovered they were bi, whether their families know, how they meet and approach people, and how they'd handle a foreign boyfriend. Pea says she gets many emails from viewers shocked to discover their Filipina partner is bi or even lesbian, so the women's views on honesty, long-term partners and threesomes are directly relevant to foreigners dating in the Philippines. (The auto-captions render the women's names inconsistently, roughly as Sanji, Yasmin and Goda, and also as Bebe, Langa, Ganda/Guada and Angelica.)
Pea's setup
- Anyone who's been here has noticed people of "dubious gender" where it's hard to tell who's who, but these three are definitely female and also bisexual
- Lots of women here swing both ways, and one of them might walk up to you and say "I like you"
How they found out they were bi
- One realized in elementary school when she and a close female classmate became attracted to each other
- One realized in junior high that she was attracted to both genders; it wasn't considered normal and felt uncomfortable at first, but she became confident expressing her identity
- One calls herself "101% bisexual": when classmates in junior high kept asking who her crush was, she wanted a little thrill and named a girl, a "masculine feminine" classmate, and the girl turned out to feel the same, which she calls the beginning of her bisexuality
Do their families and friends know?
- Mostly not. One laughs and hopes her family isn't watching (Pea: "Confidential funds")
- One told her mom she was a lesbian as a joke when asked if she had a boyfriend; her mom just laughed
- One tried telling her mom she had a crush on a girl and was told not to be lesbian or bi, "it should be a girl," so she dropped it
- Friends don't really know either; they assume her interest in girls is just friendship or "a phase"
- All three have had boyfriends ("Of course")
Where they meet dates
- One avoids online dating because of scammers and not knowing someone's true identity; she prefers meeting at school or anywhere in person so she can see if there's physical attraction
- One jokes "IT Park," then says a circle of friends is better; online is 50/50, so be careful and skeptical
- One started looking online and used Bumble, where she matched with a guy
How they let someone know they're interested
- One acts on a gut feeling that this might be the last time they see each other; she messaged a girl who was avoidant at first because she saw it as a sign
- One is bold and goes face to face: "Hey, I like you, why don't we go out for coffee." She insists she's not kidding ("101%"); Pea likes that: "confidence is the key"
- Goda admires people from afar and says nothing, so they never know (Pea: "They're not mind readers")
Experience with women
- One dated a girl through high school, a normal relationship physically, mentally and emotionally
- One had a physical relationship they labeled a "situationship"; when pressed on what they did physically, she only says "yeah" (Pea: "Spill the beans")
- Numbers: one can't remember and guesses four or five women (Pea: "Doable"); one has been with two ("and counting"); Goda had one puppy love and is quietly admiring two this year, who don't know
What they find attractive in a woman
- Goda: an athletic build
- Another: biceps, average size rather than too big; Pea expected eyes, nose, boobs or butt
- Angelica picks "all of the above" from Pea's multiple-choice list: smallish perky breasts "like mine, so there's equality," and a morena (brown-skinned), approachable, smiling face
Would they tell a future boyfriend they're also attracted to women?
- One says yes, because if he really loves her he'll love her past
- One wavers ("maybe yes, maybe not") then says yes, because trust matters and she doesn't want to hide anything
- Goda: "101% sure," because she's honest about everything
- Pea says she's glad, because many viewers complain about Filipinas not being totally honest, and she's received plenty of emails from men shocked to learn their Filipina is bi, and some are lesbian
- Her take: bi is one thing, but a lesbian isn't attracted to men at all; "at least with a bi, I think they can work on something"
Long term with a man or a woman?
- One would fully give herself to a relationship with a man (Pea invites any interested viewer to comment)
- One says "for now" a woman, long term
- Goda wants a man, for children, family and financial stability; if that and a woman both fail, "single forever"
Would they want a guy who lets them have women on the side?
- One answers an enthusiastic yes, then claims she's kidding (Pea: "No, you're not")
- One says no, period, final answer; she doesn't like to share
- Goda says no because she gets jealous easily and doesn't want other women in the equation, even if he's letting her have her fun; the quip is that it's a "division of resources"
The threesome question
- Pea says many men fantasize about two women at once; what if he begs "just one time" and you can pick the girl?
- One says yes, with the motto "one night only," one woman, one night
- Asked what happens if her guy won't share her with other women: "I will look for another guy"
Would they date a foreigner and tell him they like girls?
- All three say yes; Goda says she's open to everything and would tell him everything
- Pea thanks them for a "titillating" afternoon and hopes one of her viewers might be their Mr. Right
Closing skit
- Pea is being tortured by "Blah Blah" and insists she'll never turn her back on her Western viewers and will always tell the truth about the Philippines, the good, the bad and the ugly
- When the device comes out she instantly caves: everything is perfect here, no trash, no traffic jams, "and all the women are virgins"
